Do you start your sex life or are you already an “expert” on the subject? In any case, this information will be useful to you, either because it represents for you an important notice or a great reminder.
We present a compilation of what expert voices in health, sexuality and feminism have come to conclude about the desires of women in heterosexual sex. This guide will help you give them the same opportunity to have a good time as you. Ready to start talking to your skin?
THINGS MEN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SEX
BEFORE A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER
15 MEN, PORN IS NOT REAL
Fantasy, that’s just. Neither the bodies of women, nor those of men are as they are seen in the pornographic industry, remember that porn is commercial, everything is designed to generate income. In real life there are impossible or uncomfortable postures. Don’t be guided by science fiction…
14 ALL VULVAS ARE DIFFERENT
Continuing with the previous point, you should be very clear that vulvas are not always what pornography shows. Actually, there are all sizes, shapes and colors. There is no vulva with a proper beauty standard, all, absolutely all are distinct in shape, color, size, appearance and structure.
Don’t forget this: the vulva is normally darker than the rest of the skin on the body, as is the penis and scrotum in men, as is the anus. “They are structures that, due to their location and under the hormonal influence during the development stage, acquire a pigment,” explained Dr. P K Gupta, a sexologist in Delhi.
13 SIZE MATTERS LESS THAN YOU THINK
Don’t get tormented by the length of your penis. How big, small, thick or thin it is is not as momentous as you have been led to believe. And also get out of your head recurring thoughts about whether you will do well, if you will be able to “live up” to that woman. You do not go to a competition, a sexual encounter awaits you where both must explode with pleasure and that’s it. Enjoy!
12 MEN, CONSENT IS THE KEY TO FUN
Learn to accept a “no” as an answer. Without insisting, without wanting to persuade, a “no” is a “no”. Care! Verbal consent is really necessary, avoid making interpretations from what you think you infer from the situation, better question. What’s more, the lack of a “no” doesn’t mean a big YES.
11 ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. ALWAYS.
You know, “without balloons there is no party.” And it’s not just about preventing unwanted pregnancies, but also that the condom is a contraceptive method that helps prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV, chlamydia and gonorrhea.
Be careful, even if she is using another method of contraception, it is essential to use a condom. So, always carry condoms with you…
Oh, and then some. Don’t take off your condom without her consent. “Stealthing” is the term by which some men’s way of removing the condom during sex without their partner knowing it is known. This is a dangerous practice that can lead to sexually transmitted infections, unplanned pregnancies, among other things.
10 SPEAK AND FOSTER AN HONEST ENVIRONMENT
Take note because we are revealing a GREAT trick: The more confident and confident a woman feels, the more she will enjoy sex.
“Feeling safe and protected in the relationship is key for a woman to really relax during sex,” explains the best sexologist in Delhi.
How to achieve this? Encourage your partner to express themselves, let them know that you recognize and validate their thoughts and words. That both are in a safe environment to manifest with their bodies, phrases or groans what they want.
DURING A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER
9 ENJOY THE PROCESS
Casual sex or with a stable partner, in either case it is necessary that as a man you go the extra mile at the previous moment. The flirting, the mischief, the pun, the smiles, the explorations in her body…
Pay attention to some of your most forgotten areas, such as your neck, inner thighs, or feet. Make her want you!
Foreplay is mandatory and should not even be considered a separate thing from sex, but as a whole. Do it every time and don’t do it halfway. All your patience and dedication will be rewarded!
8 DON’T UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF KISSING
A good and passionate kiss can make things work! Go little by little with a rubbing of lips, you can even bite them a little and it will surely be electrifying. Keep moving forward until you reach his neck… In short, try and try to get a lot out of kissing, remember that practice makes the master!
7 MAKE HER FEEL DESIRED
It boosts your ego! Even if she knows how attractive she looks, there is nothing wrong with reminding her. Tell her how much you like her, how good the clothes she has looked and the lingerie she wears or she doesn’t wear. Express in words your desire and desire for her. Seduce her! She’s going to love it.
In short, if you want an infallible way to drive her crazy and ensure better sex, praise her. Find a particular feature that appeals to you to it and tell it that it’s the best at it.
6 ASK WHAT AND HOW YOU LIKE IT
Instead of assuming that you know how to please a woman, better ask her and identify what gives her pleasure. To give you an idea of where to navigate, keep in mind that the clitoris has multiple nerve endings.
5 THERE IS MUCH MORE TO IT THAN THE VAGINA
Dare to know a little more about the female anatomy, so you will discover that there are many areas that you can stimulate and that the clitoris is responsible for most of the orgasms of women. Why?
Imagine that the clitoris area has 8,000 nerve endings! Only its tip, what peeks out, has twice as many nerve endings as the penis. On the contrary, the vagina has almost no sensitivity. Therefore…
4 MEN: PENETRATION IS NOT ENOUGH
For 80% of women, sex alone doesn’t work. Why not? Well, because most sexual positions do not directly stimulate the clitoris. Therefore, you cannot forget that there are other potential erogenous zones in women and that these vary from person to person: try stimulating the breasts, neck, lips, touching their entire body, etc.
3 TOYS ARE YOUR FRIENDS
They are your allies, there is no need to fear. A vibrator doesn’t mean she doesn’t like your penis or any other madness that goes through the mind. A woman uses a sex toy to discover new sensations, achieve more and better orgasms, to take care of the pelvic muscles, sleep better, lower stress levels, improve the relationship, among other reasons. It’s not something against you, so don’t take it personally.
2 SEX DOESN’T END WHEN YOU EJACULATE
Please don’t forget this: sexual intercourse is an act of generosity. Make sure she enjoys as much as you do, don’t just try to have pleasure you and push her aside.
Hopefully your foreplay is so seductive that she reaches an orgasm first so they can welcome the night. Fortunately, female genitalia are so versatile and cool that they don’t need much recovery time to re-experience the pinnacle of pleasure.
1 TELL YOUR PARTNER YOUR FANTASIES
We come to the end of this conversation by going back to the importance of communication and having an honest environment framed in respect.
How about telling her what you want? It is possible that she is willing to try those new erotic elements that you saw or the idea that comes spinning in your head sounds to her. Maybe yes, maybe not, you could try it when in the relationship they are confident enough and willing to experience something unusual.